13 Reasons Why You Should Start A Blog

Yes, I binge watched the second season of 13 Reasons Why just like I did with the first season and woman… It is one of my all time favorite shows ever. It is probably neck and neck with Stranger Things. I know that there is so much controversy over the show and I gladly tell you that I really don’t care, so thank you for your comments, they are welcome but will not be responded to. Where was I? I digress…


SO NOW LETS GET TO WHY BLOGGING IS THE BEST THING EVER!


  1. Websites are taking over social media. I love being ahead of the curve, trend, quota, whatever you call it! I really think that because creating your own website has become possible to everyone, it is going to be the new wave. I don’t think social medias such as Facebook and Instagram will ever go away but I do think that their purpose will shift. Personal websites will be where you post and share your life stories while Social Medias will be more of a supporting ground. I mean I am not that revolutionary because that is mainly how people use social media now anyways, but it’s something to think about.
  2. You can be undeniably you. When you meet someone are you just like, “Hey here is my life, this is who I am”? No, you are going to take time to open up and get comfortable, and that is only one person. You repeat this cycle over and over again throughout your whole life. With blogging you can share to a mass amount of people who you are, or a big event in your life, good or bad. You get to communicate with thousands of people, not limited to who you are following or who follows you. I have people from India and Brazil that read my blogs, how cool is that? I especially love this because my desire my whole life has always been to inspire and I feel like with blogging there is no cap as to how much of it I can do.
  3. It is basically a super fancy Diary. Don’t put so much pressure on it it’s just a diary/journal entry. When you write in your journal you are writing for you, not for everyone else, right? That is how I see my blog. Sure I hope people are reading and getting pumped with me, but all in all I write for me and I love it!
  4. It helps you break comfort zones. My New Years Resolution for 2018 is to get out of my comfort zone. This helps me so much. I am able to talk about things I have always wanted to, go meet people that have influenced my life, and go do things I would have never of done if it wasn’t for this blog. I mean, I had to dance to no music on the side of Magnolia Street in Fort Worth, TX while fake laughing in order to get some of the photos I have. If that isn’t breaking comfort zones then I don’t know what is.
  5. You build a community. I have met some really cool people in the blogging world. It is like a secret society  (lol jk def not that cool). It is fun to be able to relate to people and get together to work. I have made friendships and memories simply because we have this thing in common, blogging.
  6. It gets you creative. When you experience writers block, you seek out things to inspire you or great your creativity flowing. It is a great tool and way to stay actively creative and engaged.
  7. It is your purpose when you are lacking. I have been there, at a job that I absolutely despised and the only thing that kept me hanging on was of course Jesus and this blog. there will be times in life that you have no idea what you are doing and that is totally okay. Hills and valleys. A blog can be a place to focus your energy in those times when you need it.
  8. You are in control. Yeah I may be a little of a control freak. Only a little though. with a blog, you are completely in control of what you get to do with it. You want to post videos? Go for it! You want to do photography? Snap that shot girl! You decide what you want down to every single detail.
  9. It gives you time to hang out with YOU. I am so big on self care because I struggled with it very badly this past year. My blog is my “me” space. This is a place in which I pour into myself. My stress reliever. It really does work. If your blog should be about you and it is basically your journal then when therapists say that it is healthy to write, they are basically telling you to blog. So take it from a therapist (not me, someone much smarter than me), you should blog.
  10. It is FREE. Blogging can be free, you don’t have to pay for it if you don’t want to. Maybe you are an anonymous writer (very Phantom Of The Opera of you) and you do it here and there, but not enough to want to pay a subscription, then you are in for a treat! Most blog host sights have a free domain name option!
  11. It isn’t crazy difficult. The misconception is that you have to pour hours and hours into it. Sure, I do, but I also am a total writing and reading nut. It can be causal if you want it to be. Host sights such as WordPress and SquareSpace make it easy to set up even if you have absolutely no experience in web design, like me.  Not going to lie, it kind of made me feel like I was 13 again setting up my MySpace page… Oh Myspace….
  12. It can help you in your career. I put my blog on my “exterior experience” section of my resume and little did I know, that is what my company was looking for when they were wanting to hire someone. It could help launch your writing career, it shows employees that you are an evolved-well equipped person, and it sets you apart.
  13. BECAUSE IT IS SO MUCH FUN! I am not being over dramatic or fake when I say that I seriously wish everyone would go out and get a blog because it is so fun. It has brought joy to my life. It truly is a little piece of me. I am a blogger, and I take pride in that.

Moral of this blog is blog because blogging is fun and if you have a blog then you will be blog-crazy like me and wont be able to stop saying blog because it is just so blogging amazing. Blog.

Big Reputation, Oh You And Me Would Be A Big Conversation

Today I watched a speech Taylor Swift gave in her Reputation Tour and it really made me think deeply. Her Punch line was, “You shouldn’t care so much if you feel misunderstood by a lot of people who don’t know you, as long as you feel understood by the people who do know you.”

Growing up I was taught that my reputation should be one of the single most important things that I held with caution. It can take a life time to build a reputation but just one moment to ruin it. I never took that to heart. “No Shame” was my motto (and still is). Maybe I should have cared a little more but you know, win some, lose some.

I went to an incredibly strict college where we had a curfew. Yes, I said curfew. They explained that because it was a bible school they wanted to make sure their students weren’t out late doing things ministry majors shouldn’t be doing and giving the school a bad name. I can, in a way (a very small way), see where they were coming from, but on the flip side, it naturally cultivate the students’ to assume anyone who was out past curfew was up to no good. Sounds ridiculous right? Because it totally is! For all you know that person could just be coming home from a trip, or any other reason besides the fact that they were doing something bad. Gossip festered in that school like rotting mold. The school was so worried about their reputation that once at a basketball game when I was all pumped up, the president of the school saw me and gave me a fine for dancing. A FINE FOR DANCING (yes it was just like Footloose). It blew my mind. Of course I refused it and politely told the Dean of Students that no way in Saint Mother Mary’s name was I going to pay that. Sure he didn’t take it so well but I didn’t have to pay so *wipes sweat off forehead*. Believe it or not, that incident blew through the school like wild fire and I was forever marked as the “wild child” #Represent.

The school worried about what I wore, my social media accounts, who I hung out with, and more. I had all of these legalistic rules that I had to follow. Of course here I was like “screw it, I’m wearing my holey jeans to chapel whatever”. That’s probably why they kept such a close eye on me #ProudRebel. I struggled because I felt like everyone thought I was a bad kid. There I was Branded like I was wearing a big “A” on my chest.

My point to show you is sometimes our rules that we put on ourselves that are meant to protect us can end up making us frustrated. This is especially hard, I feel like, for women in the work place, “be approachable, nice, never give someone any reason to think you are crazy, be careful of what you wear, how you speak, and who you are around.” It becomes absolutely ridiculous! We get so concerned about everything that suddenly nothing feels right. Shame follows us around waiting for us to fail and then it latches on.

Here is a fact: Anything you do can become a failure if you are seeing it through a critical eye. With people you can’t win. Not everyone is going to like you, and that is completely out of your control. Someone will think you are rude, questionable, or frustrating. You will rub people the wrong way and be misunderstood. Heck, I used to shout along with the cheerleaders’ in the crowd at basketball games and they thought I was making fun of them. It’s called spirit and I have it yes I do, I’ve got spirit how bout you?!

There is freedom in knowing that you are going to be misread or that you’ll mess up. You don’t have to wonder if someone, at some point in your life is going to dislike you, because they will.

 

What do you do then when there is someone out there trying to ruin your name for literally no good reason? (This could be an ex-coworker or anyone that is trying to throw shade your way). I think Taylor Swift said it best, “You shouldn’t care so much if you feel misunderstood by a lot of people who don’t know you, as long as you feel understood by the people who do know you.” Thanks T Swizzle for always keeping it real.

 

Why It Is Hard To Workout For Someone Who Has Suffered From An Eating Disorder

It is crazy to think that 2 years ago I had officially identified myself with having an eating disorder. I was 20 years old, a full time broke college student, and had “no time” in my schedule to eat paired with “no money” in my wallet to spend on food. These were of course excuses. It started out as me being lazy, not wanting to pack my lunch or go out of my way to buy something off the dollar menu with my change lying around in my car, to an obsession with feeling skinny and hungry. I knew if I just pushed past the first part of the day, I would no longer feel the pit in my stomach. I was going days without eating. There were times where I couldn’t remember when the last time was that I had a meal. I was eating a fruit pack a day. That’s it. I made sure to stay hydrated because I didn’t want to pass out but I CHOSE not to eat. It was a mental demon I fought every day for months.

I remember looking at myself. All 108 pounds of me (which for me is really bad). I could see my ribs, size 0 pants were loose, I looked like I had a bobble head, and I just stared. I sent a picture to my then boyfriend, now husband, and I vividly remember asking him, “be honest, am I too skinny?” We had just recently started dating and he had no idea I had this problem. His answer was the thing that I needed. I had always thought “I could afford to lose some weight”, but his exact words were “you could afford to gain some weight.”

I opened up and told him all about my eating disorder and from then on he made it his personal goal to make sure I ate every day. I would eat a kids menu burger and be so full I felt like I was going to throw up. My stomach had shrunk tremendously, but I forced myself to eat 3 times a day. Buddy (my then boyfriend, now husband) would buy me dinner and lunch meals so I had no excuse but to eat. I hated it. I was gaining weight and my pants stopped fitting me, but when I would be angry with my weight gain I would look at old pictures and continue eating. I realized 2 things: 1. I was pretty prideful about how thin I was. And 2. I had the best boyfriend in the universe for walking through this with me and loving every pound gained.

In 6 months I had successfully gained 30 pounds! I was eating 3 full meals a day, and no longer had the desire to be hungry. Success!


Just 4 weeks ago I decided I wanted to live a healthier life style. I started working out everyday and one thought lead to another and there I was thinking, “If I skipped breakfast and lunch and only ate dinner (a small plate) my husband wouldn’t find out and I could lose weight faster.” It wasn’t even my goal to lose weight, but to be healthy. Starvation isn’t healthy! I did it for 3 days and on the third day, which just so happened to be my 3rd day of my brand new job, I was walking out to my car and started passing out. I sat down as fast as I could. Luckily I was walking with my coworkers so they gave me some snacks they had in their purses. I was sooooo embarrassed. I told my husband and he immediately identified it. Can’t get anything past that smart cookie! But he is my biggest blessing with my health. That was 4 weeks ago. The very first relapse and the very last. Sometimes when you start working out again after recovery, you want to revert to your old methods of weight loss. But the biggest concern that I remind myself of is my health, not my weight.


Post eating disorder sufferers struggle with this daily. I know it because I have been there and seen it. It’s not always easy to start working out again but I’ll tell you one thing, it sure does make you face your demons and overcome them. Hitting this head on has been hard but it has given me more healing then I even thought I needed.