13 Reasons Why You Should Start A Blog

Yes, I binge watched the second season of 13 Reasons Why just like I did with the first season and woman… It is one of my all time favorite shows ever. It is probably neck and neck with Stranger Things. I know that there is so much controversy over the show and I gladly tell you that I really don’t care, so thank you for your comments, they are welcome but will not be responded to. Where was I? I digress…


SO NOW LETS GET TO WHY BLOGGING IS THE BEST THING EVER!


  1. Websites are taking over social media. I love being ahead of the curve, trend, quota, whatever you call it! I really think that because creating your own website has become possible to everyone, it is going to be the new wave. I don’t think social medias such as Facebook and Instagram will ever go away but I do think that their purpose will shift. Personal websites will be where you post and share your life stories while Social Medias will be more of a supporting ground. I mean I am not that revolutionary because that is mainly how people use social media now anyways, but it’s something to think about.
  2. You can be undeniably you. When you meet someone are you just like, “Hey here is my life, this is who I am”? No, you are going to take time to open up and get comfortable, and that is only one person. You repeat this cycle over and over again throughout your whole life. With blogging you can share to a mass amount of people who you are, or a big event in your life, good or bad. You get to communicate with thousands of people, not limited to who you are following or who follows you. I have people from India and Brazil that read my blogs, how cool is that? I especially love this because my desire my whole life has always been to inspire and I feel like with blogging there is no cap as to how much of it I can do.
  3. It is basically a super fancy Diary. Don’t put so much pressure on it it’s just a diary/journal entry. When you write in your journal you are writing for you, not for everyone else, right? That is how I see my blog. Sure I hope people are reading and getting pumped with me, but all in all I write for me and I love it!
  4. It helps you break comfort zones. My New Years Resolution for 2018 is to get out of my comfort zone. This helps me so much. I am able to talk about things I have always wanted to, go meet people that have influenced my life, and go do things I would have never of done if it wasn’t for this blog. I mean, I had to dance to no music on the side of Magnolia Street in Fort Worth, TX while fake laughing in order to get some of the photos I have. If that isn’t breaking comfort zones then I don’t know what is.
  5. You build a community. I have met some really cool people in the blogging world. It is like a secret society  (lol jk def not that cool). It is fun to be able to relate to people and get together to work. I have made friendships and memories simply because we have this thing in common, blogging.
  6. It gets you creative. When you experience writers block, you seek out things to inspire you or great your creativity flowing. It is a great tool and way to stay actively creative and engaged.
  7. It is your purpose when you are lacking. I have been there, at a job that I absolutely despised and the only thing that kept me hanging on was of course Jesus and this blog. there will be times in life that you have no idea what you are doing and that is totally okay. Hills and valleys. A blog can be a place to focus your energy in those times when you need it.
  8. You are in control. Yeah I may be a little of a control freak. Only a little though. with a blog, you are completely in control of what you get to do with it. You want to post videos? Go for it! You want to do photography? Snap that shot girl! You decide what you want down to every single detail.
  9. It gives you time to hang out with YOU. I am so big on self care because I struggled with it very badly this past year. My blog is my “me” space. This is a place in which I pour into myself. My stress reliever. It really does work. If your blog should be about you and it is basically your journal then when therapists say that it is healthy to write, they are basically telling you to blog. So take it from a therapist (not me, someone much smarter than me), you should blog.
  10. It is FREE. Blogging can be free, you don’t have to pay for it if you don’t want to. Maybe you are an anonymous writer (very Phantom Of The Opera of you) and you do it here and there, but not enough to want to pay a subscription, then you are in for a treat! Most blog host sights have a free domain name option!
  11. It isn’t crazy difficult. The misconception is that you have to pour hours and hours into it. Sure, I do, but I also am a total writing and reading nut. It can be causal if you want it to be. Host sights such as WordPress and SquareSpace make it easy to set up even if you have absolutely no experience in web design, like me.  Not going to lie, it kind of made me feel like I was 13 again setting up my MySpace page… Oh Myspace….
  12. It can help you in your career. I put my blog on my “exterior experience” section of my resume and little did I know, that is what my company was looking for when they were wanting to hire someone. It could help launch your writing career, it shows employees that you are an evolved-well equipped person, and it sets you apart.
  13. BECAUSE IT IS SO MUCH FUN! I am not being over dramatic or fake when I say that I seriously wish everyone would go out and get a blog because it is so fun. It has brought joy to my life. It truly is a little piece of me. I am a blogger, and I take pride in that.

Moral of this blog is blog because blogging is fun and if you have a blog then you will be blog-crazy like me and wont be able to stop saying blog because it is just so blogging amazing. Blog.

Big Reputation, Oh You And Me Would Be A Big Conversation

Today I watched a speech Taylor Swift gave in her Reputation Tour and it really made me think deeply. Her Punch line was, “You shouldn’t care so much if you feel misunderstood by a lot of people who don’t know you, as long as you feel understood by the people who do know you.”

Growing up I was taught that my reputation should be one of the single most important things that I held with caution. It can take a life time to build a reputation but just one moment to ruin it. I never took that to heart. “No Shame” was my motto (and still is). Maybe I should have cared a little more but you know, win some, lose some.

I went to an incredibly strict college where we had a curfew. Yes, I said curfew. They explained that because it was a bible school they wanted to make sure their students weren’t out late doing things ministry majors shouldn’t be doing and giving the school a bad name. I can, in a way (a very small way), see where they were coming from, but on the flip side, it naturally cultivate the students’ to assume anyone who was out past curfew was up to no good. Sounds ridiculous right? Because it totally is! For all you know that person could just be coming home from a trip, or any other reason besides the fact that they were doing something bad. Gossip festered in that school like rotting mold. The school was so worried about their reputation that once at a basketball game when I was all pumped up, the president of the school saw me and gave me a fine for dancing. A FINE FOR DANCING (yes it was just like Footloose). It blew my mind. Of course I refused it and politely told the Dean of Students that no way in Saint Mother Mary’s name was I going to pay that. Sure he didn’t take it so well but I didn’t have to pay so *wipes sweat off forehead*. Believe it or not, that incident blew through the school like wild fire and I was forever marked as the “wild child” #Represent.

The school worried about what I wore, my social media accounts, who I hung out with, and more. I had all of these legalistic rules that I had to follow. Of course here I was like “screw it, I’m wearing my holey jeans to chapel whatever”. That’s probably why they kept such a close eye on me #ProudRebel. I struggled because I felt like everyone thought I was a bad kid. There I was Branded like I was wearing a big “A” on my chest.

My point to show you is sometimes our rules that we put on ourselves that are meant to protect us can end up making us frustrated. This is especially hard, I feel like, for women in the work place, “be approachable, nice, never give someone any reason to think you are crazy, be careful of what you wear, how you speak, and who you are around.” It becomes absolutely ridiculous! We get so concerned about everything that suddenly nothing feels right. Shame follows us around waiting for us to fail and then it latches on.

Here is a fact: Anything you do can become a failure if you are seeing it through a critical eye. With people you can’t win. Not everyone is going to like you, and that is completely out of your control. Someone will think you are rude, questionable, or frustrating. You will rub people the wrong way and be misunderstood. Heck, I used to shout along with the cheerleaders’ in the crowd at basketball games and they thought I was making fun of them. It’s called spirit and I have it yes I do, I’ve got spirit how bout you?!

There is freedom in knowing that you are going to be misread or that you’ll mess up. You don’t have to wonder if someone, at some point in your life is going to dislike you, because they will.

 

What do you do then when there is someone out there trying to ruin your name for literally no good reason? (This could be an ex-coworker or anyone that is trying to throw shade your way). I think Taylor Swift said it best, “You shouldn’t care so much if you feel misunderstood by a lot of people who don’t know you, as long as you feel understood by the people who do know you.” Thanks T Swizzle for always keeping it real.

 

How to Have Consistent Content

The question, “How do you stay focused and keep making content?” came from my Instagram follower @ali0n who is an incredible artist and lover of her totally rad purple hair (link for her profile below). This is such a HOT topic because writers block is real! Right now I have 12 drafts just sitting there waiting to be finished, but I lost interest half way through writing them and just stopped. How do you start having consistent and fluid content when there is a lack of inspiration? This is a good and really hard topic to touch on because it all depends on what type of blogger you are, but since I am a lifestyle blogger I will give you my tips and tricks!

To be able to continuously have content, there are three things you need to know before you put pen to paper

What Is The Purpose For Your Blog?

So, I am hoping that if you are starting a blog you already know which category you find yourself under. Are you life style, fashion, design, art, short story, adventure, travel, ect. ect.? The most important piece of your blog, however, is knowing why you are doing it.

My blog falls under the “life style” category. I originally chose Life Style because it has no limitations as to what topics I can talk about. However, when I first started my blog I didn’t know why I wanted to, I just wanted to do something. This made it hard to write when there was every topic at my disposal and no clear vision. Before creating a blog or publishing a post I needed to think one step further. I am not just a life style blogger. I am a life style blogger that caters to young women in the corporate/working world, encouraging them in their everyday routine and business ventures.

Suddenly all my content had purpose, it’s purpose drove my posts, and my posts had a theme. I don’t know about you but I absolutely love the show, Project Runway. When they get down to the finale, the contestants have to design and create an entire line of 8-10 pieces, the biggest factor of the winning designer’s line is not just the design, but cohesion. You could have incredible posts but if you are all over the map with unrelated topics, I promise, it won’t be as successful as you would have hoped.

The thought is: Knowing why you want to blog will create cohesion and steer your mind to the right topics that will keep you focused and helping avoid writers block.

Who Do You Want Your Reader To Be?

If you noticed I didn’t ask, “Who is your reader”. This is because you should never let others dictate what you write, instead you should make what you write dictate who reads your blog. It is important to know who you want to write to. Get into the nitty gridy with this. Don’t just say you want to write to women from 18-30 who like fashion. put yourself in your readers shoes.

What is your readers age, gender, style, what do they do for fun, what is it specifically that you write about that they can relate with? Are you an introvert, extrovert, mega punk rock lover, and how are you going to incorporate that to gain a specific type of reader? All of these things will drive unique and creative topics that will help you stay on track and motivated. Know who you want your reader to be.

The thought is: Knowing who you want your reader to be will help you because instead of posting for the whole world, you are basically writing a letter to a fellow friend.

Content Inspire Your Topic or Topic Inspire Your Content?

since I have my a clear vision for my blog and I know who I want my readers to be these are the two ways I begin a blog. Most of the time believe it or not my content inspires what I write about. What does that mean for me? This means I go out and do a photo shoot with 5 different outfit changes, and different locations. I then come back and hit the drawing board. What is it about these photos that I am trying to say? Then I write an entire blog post off of how I interpret a picture. the other way is to already have written topics down and you choose a topic and then you go out and have a photo shoot for that specific topic. Which I actually find to be harder, but sometimes my topic does inspire my content.

The thought is: Change things up if what you’re doing isn’t working. Find people who inspire you or do things opposite of what you normally do. There is no specific “right” way to get inspired.

my 3 writing tricks

After all of that there are a few things mechanically that actually help me as I am writing so that I don’t stop half way through because I am bored or have completely lost what I was going to say in the first place:

  1. I always create an outline.
  2. I write my punch lines for every paragraph first.
  3. I never stop educating myself or reading other blogs for inspiration.

I hope this has helped anyone with providing some practical tools and ways that I have content and HAPPY BLOGGING YALL!

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