Turning Your “Work Brain” Off

As someone who enjoys working and being busy, this was hard for me to grasp. When I am in something I am full force, pedal to the metal, submerged. This can be good in moments when I need to be attentive or exude a lot of energy, but also a down fall.


When you are growing up you have shift work jobs where you work 3 times a week, four hours at a time. When you get into corporate America, you work at least 40 hours a week, which breaks down to 8 hours a day of work and one hour a day for lunch. Although you technically work 40 hours you are away from home for at least 45 hours, not including your drive. On a “normal” week I leave my place at 6 am and get home around 5:15 pm. I generally pump myself up for work on my way there and decompress on my way home which means I am spending a little over 11 hours in work mode. IT IS HARD TO TURN OFF. I tend to find myself having a hard time clocking out mentally at 4 pm along with my body.

For the first couple months of my job in corporate, I dwelt on my work constantly. I couldn’t take my mind off of it. I was excited and ambitious but it led me down a rough road. I started getting irritable, I was waking up in the middle of the night with items I needed to add to my checklist, and I was panicking over everything I did.

I did hit my breaking point. I was exhausted, my co-worker had quit, we were hiring someone new, I never rested, I was working 10.5 hour days (not including the hour commute) and I couldn’t take my mind off work. My mental health had taken a serious hit. One day, I was sitting at work and felt my toes and hands starting to hurt. I looked down and there were red spots all over my feet! I went to the doctor, they took my blood pressure (which was through the roof), and found out that because of all the stress I was putting on myself, my immune system was low and I got hand, foot, and mouth disease.


This forced me to rest. I was out of work for four days and spent all day, every day, lying down. Awful, but glorious because I got so much rest! A mental vacation was what I needed. From that breaking point I have trained my brain to turn off of work mode. Mental breaks are not easy and it took practice believe it or not, but sometimes you have to choose not to think about something. here is how I did it:

  1. I started by actively doing something after work that I enjoyed, like blogging! TV and social media doesn’t do it for me, I don’t need something mindless, I need something that I can focus on that brings me joy and sweeps me away.
  2. I stopped talking about work on my free time. I still do this if something is bothering me but I try to make a conscious effort not to talk about it to fill space.
  3. I started planning events to look forward to so when I was stressed I could remember what I had planned that was going to be fun and NOT WORK!
  4. I stopped giving all of myself to everyone. When I did this I let in room to take care of myself, my husband, and my job. It became a lot easier to balance.

It gets better, but it does take time and effort.

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Big Brother’s Season 19 Mark Jansen and Elena Davies Meet up

My husband and I had the honor of attending a Big Brother trivia event last night at Landmark Bar and Kitchen in the West 7th district of Fort Worth. The hosts of this event were season 19’s cutest showmance Mark Jansen and Elena Davies, more popularly known from the show as, MarLena. If you thought they were a cute couple on the show, you should see them in person.

Mark is one of the nicest people on the face of the planet and although you probably already knew that if you watched any part of the show, it couldn’t truer. He loves Elena and is a solid foundation for her. Without her even trying she brings the biggest smile to his face. You can tell that Mark is a bit more of an introvert than Elena but he was more than gracious to take pictures with all the fans and endure Elena and I blabbering on for far too long, so thanks Mark, you’re the real MVP!

Elena is a firecracker! She is the girl at the party who walks in and in 30 minutes knows everybody’s name and life story. She is so likable, outgoing, and undeniably herself. She has witty quick humor that had my husband and I laughing in tears at some points. She is clearly the extrovert in their relationship. The most inspirational thing about Elena is that she has healthy confidence. I feel like she is the person who is like, ‘Take it or Leave it’. She is herself and if you don’t like that then you can move right along because she doesn’t want toxic people in her life. She is truly someone who you want to be around because of her confidence and I mean come on… She is a total babe, so that helps.

After the trivia game they answered questions from the audience and were not afraid to talk about the hot topics such as Paul running the house and taking things further than just a game player, but someone who was hurtful. They talked about Josh and his relentless annoyance. I could never live in a house with Josh so props to them. Elena’s favorite person in the house, besides Mark of course, which was Ramses. I really wish CBS would have put more of Ramses in the show because from the way she was talking about him, he seams way cool.

I want to say a big shout out to Landmark for having the event at their facility, giving me the best seats in the house, and making a really yummy Big Brother inspired drink menu which I think they should leave on forever. An even BIGGER shout out to Ellis County Blue Line Moving Co. For funding the event and making it happen! Elena used them when her and Mark moved into their house together and highly recommended them for all moving needs! If you use the name Marlena when booking Ellis County Blue Line Moving they will give you 10% off.

All in all the event was super fun and we were so excited to be able to meet Marlena after and chat.

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Rachel’s Hope

My thrifting journey has started out really fun. I went to a place that I had never been before and found some really great things. I can’t wait to share it with you all and if you visit Rachel’s Hope let me know and I can celebrate with you!


About:

Rachel’s Hope is a boutique styled second hand shop that hand picks through the donated clothes, finds the highest quality items, and donates the rest to other resale shops. All proceeds go to Next Step Women’s Center “… To provide medical, educational, and individualized care that equips women and their partners to make informed decisions about their pregnancy and sexual health.” (via pregnancyaid.org).


My Experience:

I was impressed with how organized and clean their store was. I have been into some boutique styled second hand shops and their prices can be quite high for their “gently used” items. At Rachel’s Hope, they don’t pick out the name brands, hold them behind the register, and charge $40 for a battered coach purse. The prices were incredible, the quality was a good, and the atmosphere was light hearted and fun. I will definitely be heading back next time I am in Burleson, TX.


What I Got:

Jacket- Calvin Klein, mint condition, denim jacket for… wait for it… SIX DOLLARS (dramatic pause)! and to be honest even though everything in the store is so affordable, if I didn’t watch myself I could have easily left there spending over $50 with more that ten items, but I didn’t so I gave myself a pat on my back.

Scarf- This beautiful scarf was only $1.50 and came in great condition! No stains or permanent marks! I feel like it really pulled this outfit together.

Earings- Wow I am so in love with these earings! I can dress them up and down. Such a timeless selection and only $2.


Their Best section:

The best section at Rachel’s Hope were the jackets for sure! This is hard to come by in a resale shop because most thrift stores jackets aren’t the best quality and if you go to a boutique type resale shop they are expensive. The fact that there were honest, good, nice jackets (professional and casual) at an amazing price was really refreshing.

Rachel’s Hope: rachelshoperesale.org

Rachel’s Hope Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pg/RachelsHopeResale/about/?ref=page_internal

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