13 Reasons Why You Should Start A Blog

Yes, I binge watched the second season of 13 Reasons Why just like I did with the first season and woman… It is one of my all time favorite shows ever. It is probably neck and neck with Stranger Things. I know that there is so much controversy over the show and I gladly tell you that I really don’t care, so thank you for your comments, they are welcome but will not be responded to. Where was I? I digress…


SO NOW LETS GET TO WHY BLOGGING IS THE BEST THING EVER!


  1. Websites are taking over social media. I love being ahead of the curve, trend, quota, whatever you call it! I really think that because creating your own website has become possible to everyone, it is going to be the new wave. I don’t think social medias such as Facebook and Instagram will ever go away but I do think that their purpose will shift. Personal websites will be where you post and share your life stories while Social Medias will be more of a supporting ground. I mean I am not that revolutionary because that is mainly how people use social media now anyways, but it’s something to think about.
  2. You can be undeniably you. When you meet someone are you just like, “Hey here is my life, this is who I am”? No, you are going to take time to open up and get comfortable, and that is only one person. You repeat this cycle over and over again throughout your whole life. With blogging you can share to a mass amount of people who you are, or a big event in your life, good or bad. You get to communicate with thousands of people, not limited to who you are following or who follows you. I have people from India and Brazil that read my blogs, how cool is that? I especially love this because my desire my whole life has always been to inspire and I feel like with blogging there is no cap as to how much of it I can do.
  3. It is basically a super fancy Diary. Don’t put so much pressure on it it’s just a diary/journal entry. When you write in your journal you are writing for you, not for everyone else, right? That is how I see my blog. Sure I hope people are reading and getting pumped with me, but all in all I write for me and I love it!
  4. It helps you break comfort zones. My New Years Resolution for 2018 is to get out of my comfort zone. This helps me so much. I am able to talk about things I have always wanted to, go meet people that have influenced my life, and go do things I would have never of done if it wasn’t for this blog. I mean, I had to dance to no music on the side of Magnolia Street in Fort Worth, TX while fake laughing in order to get some of the photos I have. If that isn’t breaking comfort zones then I don’t know what is.
  5. You build a community. I have met some really cool people in the blogging world. It is like a secret society  (lol jk def not that cool). It is fun to be able to relate to people and get together to work. I have made friendships and memories simply because we have this thing in common, blogging.
  6. It gets you creative. When you experience writers block, you seek out things to inspire you or great your creativity flowing. It is a great tool and way to stay actively creative and engaged.
  7. It is your purpose when you are lacking. I have been there, at a job that I absolutely despised and the only thing that kept me hanging on was of course Jesus and this blog. there will be times in life that you have no idea what you are doing and that is totally okay. Hills and valleys. A blog can be a place to focus your energy in those times when you need it.
  8. You are in control. Yeah I may be a little of a control freak. Only a little though. with a blog, you are completely in control of what you get to do with it. You want to post videos? Go for it! You want to do photography? Snap that shot girl! You decide what you want down to every single detail.
  9. It gives you time to hang out with YOU. I am so big on self care because I struggled with it very badly this past year. My blog is my “me” space. This is a place in which I pour into myself. My stress reliever. It really does work. If your blog should be about you and it is basically your journal then when therapists say that it is healthy to write, they are basically telling you to blog. So take it from a therapist (not me, someone much smarter than me), you should blog.
  10. It is FREE. Blogging can be free, you don’t have to pay for it if you don’t want to. Maybe you are an anonymous writer (very Phantom Of The Opera of you) and you do it here and there, but not enough to want to pay a subscription, then you are in for a treat! Most blog host sights have a free domain name option!
  11. It isn’t crazy difficult. The misconception is that you have to pour hours and hours into it. Sure, I do, but I also am a total writing and reading nut. It can be causal if you want it to be. Host sights such as WordPress and SquareSpace make it easy to set up even if you have absolutely no experience in web design, like me.  Not going to lie, it kind of made me feel like I was 13 again setting up my MySpace page… Oh Myspace….
  12. It can help you in your career. I put my blog on my “exterior experience” section of my resume and little did I know, that is what my company was looking for when they were wanting to hire someone. It could help launch your writing career, it shows employees that you are an evolved-well equipped person, and it sets you apart.
  13. BECAUSE IT IS SO MUCH FUN! I am not being over dramatic or fake when I say that I seriously wish everyone would go out and get a blog because it is so fun. It has brought joy to my life. It truly is a little piece of me. I am a blogger, and I take pride in that.

Moral of this blog is blog because blogging is fun and if you have a blog then you will be blog-crazy like me and wont be able to stop saying blog because it is just so blogging amazing. Blog.

Why It Is Hard To Workout For Someone Who Has Suffered From An Eating Disorder

It is crazy to think that 2 years ago I had officially identified myself with having an eating disorder. I was 20 years old, a full time broke college student, and had “no time” in my schedule to eat paired with “no money” in my wallet to spend on food. These were of course excuses. It started out as me being lazy, not wanting to pack my lunch or go out of my way to buy something off the dollar menu with my change lying around in my car, to an obsession with feeling skinny and hungry. I knew if I just pushed past the first part of the day, I would no longer feel the pit in my stomach. I was going days without eating. There were times where I couldn’t remember when the last time was that I had a meal. I was eating a fruit pack a day. That’s it. I made sure to stay hydrated because I didn’t want to pass out but I CHOSE not to eat. It was a mental demon I fought every day for months.

I remember looking at myself. All 108 pounds of me (which for me is really bad). I could see my ribs, size 0 pants were loose, I looked like I had a bobble head, and I just stared. I sent a picture to my then boyfriend, now husband, and I vividly remember asking him, “be honest, am I too skinny?” We had just recently started dating and he had no idea I had this problem. His answer was the thing that I needed. I had always thought “I could afford to lose some weight”, but his exact words were “you could afford to gain some weight.”

I opened up and told him all about my eating disorder and from then on he made it his personal goal to make sure I ate every day. I would eat a kids menu burger and be so full I felt like I was going to throw up. My stomach had shrunk tremendously, but I forced myself to eat 3 times a day. Buddy (my then boyfriend, now husband) would buy me dinner and lunch meals so I had no excuse but to eat. I hated it. I was gaining weight and my pants stopped fitting me, but when I would be angry with my weight gain I would look at old pictures and continue eating. I realized 2 things: 1. I was pretty prideful about how thin I was. And 2. I had the best boyfriend in the universe for walking through this with me and loving every pound gained.

In 6 months I had successfully gained 30 pounds! I was eating 3 full meals a day, and no longer had the desire to be hungry. Success!


Just 4 weeks ago I decided I wanted to live a healthier life style. I started working out everyday and one thought lead to another and there I was thinking, “If I skipped breakfast and lunch and only ate dinner (a small plate) my husband wouldn’t find out and I could lose weight faster.” It wasn’t even my goal to lose weight, but to be healthy. Starvation isn’t healthy! I did it for 3 days and on the third day, which just so happened to be my 3rd day of my brand new job, I was walking out to my car and started passing out. I sat down as fast as I could. Luckily I was walking with my coworkers so they gave me some snacks they had in their purses. I was sooooo embarrassed. I told my husband and he immediately identified it. Can’t get anything past that smart cookie! But he is my biggest blessing with my health. That was 4 weeks ago. The very first relapse and the very last. Sometimes when you start working out again after recovery, you want to revert to your old methods of weight loss. But the biggest concern that I remind myself of is my health, not my weight.


Post eating disorder sufferers struggle with this daily. I know it because I have been there and seen it. It’s not always easy to start working out again but I’ll tell you one thing, it sure does make you face your demons and overcome them. Hitting this head on has been hard but it has given me more healing then I even thought I needed.

Turning Your “Work Brain” Off

As someone who enjoys working and being busy, this was hard for me to grasp. When I am in something I am full force, pedal to the metal, submerged. This can be good in moments when I need to be attentive or exude a lot of energy, but also a down fall.


When you are growing up you have shift work jobs where you work 3 times a week, four hours at a time. When you get into corporate America, you work at least 40 hours a week, which breaks down to 8 hours a day of work and one hour a day for lunch. Although you technically work 40 hours you are away from home for at least 45 hours, not including your drive. On a “normal” week I leave my place at 6 am and get home around 5:15 pm. I generally pump myself up for work on my way there and decompress on my way home which means I am spending a little over 11 hours in work mode. IT IS HARD TO TURN OFF. I tend to find myself having a hard time clocking out mentally at 4 pm along with my body.

For the first couple months of my job in corporate, I dwelt on my work constantly. I couldn’t take my mind off of it. I was excited and ambitious but it led me down a rough road. I started getting irritable, I was waking up in the middle of the night with items I needed to add to my checklist, and I was panicking over everything I did.

I did hit my breaking point. I was exhausted, my co-worker had quit, we were hiring someone new, I never rested, I was working 10.5 hour days (not including the hour commute) and I couldn’t take my mind off work. My mental health had taken a serious hit. One day, I was sitting at work and felt my toes and hands starting to hurt. I looked down and there were red spots all over my feet! I went to the doctor, they took my blood pressure (which was through the roof), and found out that because of all the stress I was putting on myself, my immune system was low and I got hand, foot, and mouth disease.


This forced me to rest. I was out of work for four days and spent all day, every day, lying down. Awful, but glorious because I got so much rest! A mental vacation was what I needed. From that breaking point I have trained my brain to turn off of work mode. Mental breaks are not easy and it took practice believe it or not, but sometimes you have to choose not to think about something. here is how I did it:

  1. I started by actively doing something after work that I enjoyed, like blogging! TV and social media doesn’t do it for me, I don’t need something mindless, I need something that I can focus on that brings me joy and sweeps me away.
  2. I stopped talking about work on my free time. I still do this if something is bothering me but I try to make a conscious effort not to talk about it to fill space.
  3. I started planning events to look forward to so when I was stressed I could remember what I had planned that was going to be fun and NOT WORK!
  4. I stopped giving all of myself to everyone. When I did this I let in room to take care of myself, my husband, and my job. It became a lot easier to balance.

It gets better, but it does take time and effort.

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