Have you ever watched a child try to shove the square block through the circle hole? You and everyone else can see it isn’t working, but the child won’t stop trying until they burst into tears, throw the block across the room, and give up completely. We want to laugh and say, “saw that coming”. It is clear that the square will never ever fit into the circle hole. No amount of force will magically change the outcome. You may have chuckled but, everyone of us has done that before. We have tried to fit our lives into some type of mold that was never intended for us.
A few months ago, for myself, everything came to a head. I was in a job that simply was not meant for me. I was trying desperately to force it and make it work, but the more I pushed, the more my job started to crumble around me. I am not a quitter, I like to work hard, and I try to be adaptable, but I was clearly the square in this situation and my job was undeniably the circle.
Job change isn’t as easy as ‘quit your job and find a new one and BAM life will be peachy’. There are a lot of factors that go into job change. It is not taken lightly, however, if you have a death grip on your job and yet you also feel like your job has a death grip on you, maybe taking a step back and evaluating your situation is the best thing.
When I took a step back, looked at my job, relationships, and my own health (mental, physical, and emotional). I realized something had to change. I couldn’t afford to quit my job. I couldn’t afford to take the time away I needed to interview and then wait a month for a paycheck. I simply couldn’t afford it, so I thought. I like security and plans. The unknown makes me worry like none other.
Buckets of tears later (my block throwing tantrum moment), with the support of my husband, we decided that I had to leave. I had no plans, opportunities, or ideas of what I was going to do. I was scared.
I interviewed like a mad person. I had 7 interviews in one week and decided that with this next job I was going to look for a place where I not only could survive, but where I could thrive. None of them felt right until the last interview. I found myself unemployed for only 7 days before my first day at my new job. That was obviously a huge blessing.
Many times, we get so caught up in the fear and worries of tomorrow that we allow it to cripple us into staying right where we shouldn’t be. “Don’t worry”, I hate those words. How was I not supposed to worry?! I had bills, medical expenses, and we needed a new car. We weren’t in an ideal position for me to quit. I did it anyways.
You always hear these success stories of people who say they quit their jobs and now they are millionaires *loud cheering crowd*! No, I am not a millionaire but I did study their behavior. Some things that most successful people do are:
- Take chances.
- Never give up.
I am a huge fan of girlboss.com and Sophia Amoruso who single handedly created her own empire. Sure, she went through bankruptcy and had to rebuild her entire company but she is one of the most successful women entrepreneurs to this day. She even has a Netflix show called ‘Girl Boss’ about her start which I highly recommend watching!
She started a business blindly. Didn’t know how anything was supposed to work, but she took a chance. Some people will look at that and say that she was crazy or foolish but I admire it. She took a chance. She also never gave up. When her business went bankrupt she hit the ground running with new, better ways to rebuild. She had to learn and grow.
I was miserable at my job and that misery was infecting every area of my life. My sweet husband was such a trooper! He loved me through it all. I needed someone to tell me that it was going to be okay and that I needed to take care of myself first. So, if you are in a position that is not your fit or you’re miserable let me tell you something:
“It is okay to put yourself first, it is okay to take a step of courage and change jobs, it is okay to worry a little about finances because it will give you the fire to get another job, it is okay to loosen your death grip on your job, it is okay to quit. ”
I was at a job way longer than I ever should have been because I was so stressed about it not being okay if I left. But at the end of the day what happens with your life was always supposed to happen. You may just be delaying blessings because you are hanging on to a “practical” situation.