I Quit!

Have you ever watched a child try to shove the square block through the circle hole? You and everyone else can see it isn’t working, but the child won’t stop trying until they burst into tears, throw the block across the room, and give up completely. We want to laugh and say, “saw that coming”. It is clear that the square will never ever fit into the circle hole. No amount of force will magically change the outcome. You may have chuckled but, everyone of us has done that before. We have tried to fit our lives into some type of mold that was never intended for us.

A few months ago, for myself, everything came to a head. I was in a job that simply was not meant for me. I was trying desperately to force it and make it work, but the more I pushed, the more my job started to crumble around me. I am not a quitter, I like to work hard, and I try to be adaptable, but I was clearly the square in this situation and my job was undeniably the circle.

Job change isn’t as easy as ‘quit your job and find a new one and BAM life will be peachy’. There are a lot of factors that go into job change. It is not taken lightly, however, if you have a death grip on your job and yet you also feel like your job has a death grip on you, maybe taking a step back and evaluating your situation is the best thing.

When I took a step back, looked at my job, relationships, and my own health (mental, physical, and emotional). I realized something had to change. I couldn’t afford to quit my job. I couldn’t afford to take the time away I needed to interview and then wait a month for a paycheck. I simply couldn’t afford it, so I thought. I like security and plans. The unknown makes me worry like none other.

Buckets of tears later (my block throwing tantrum moment), with the support of my husband, we decided that I had to leave. I had no plans, opportunities, or ideas of what I was going to do. I was scared.

I interviewed like a mad person. I had 7 interviews in one week and decided that with this next job I was going to look for a place where I not only could survive, but where I could thrive. None of them felt right until the last interview. I found myself unemployed for only 7 days before my first day at my new job. That was obviously a huge blessing.

Many times, we get so caught up in the fear and worries of tomorrow that we allow it to cripple us into staying right where we shouldn’t be. “Don’t worry”, I hate those words. How was I not supposed to worry?! I had bills, medical expenses, and we needed a new car. We weren’t in an ideal position for me to quit. I did it anyways.

You always hear these success stories of people who say they quit their jobs and now they are millionaires *loud cheering crowd*! No, I am not a millionaire but I did study their behavior. Some things that most successful people do are:

  1. Take chances.
  2. Never give up.

I am a huge fan of girlboss.com and Sophia Amoruso who single handedly created her own empire. Sure, she went through bankruptcy and had to rebuild her entire company but she is one of the most successful women entrepreneurs to this day. She even has a Netflix show called ‘Girl Boss’ about her start which I highly recommend watching!

She started a business blindly. Didn’t know how anything was supposed to work, but she took a chance. Some people will look at that and say that she was crazy or foolish but I admire it. She took a chance. She also never gave up. When her business went bankrupt she hit the ground running with new, better ways to rebuild. She had to learn and grow.

I was miserable at my job and that misery was infecting every area of my life. My sweet husband was such a trooper! He loved me through it all. I needed someone to tell me that it was going to be okay and that I needed to take care of myself first. So, if you are in a position that is not your fit or you’re miserable let me tell you something:

“It is okay to put yourself first, it is okay to take a step of courage and change jobs, it is okay to worry a little about finances because it will give you the fire to get another job, it is okay to loosen your death grip on your job, it is okay to quit. ”

I was at a job way longer than I ever should have been because I was so stressed about it not being okay if I left. But at the end of the day what happens with your life was always supposed to happen. You may just be delaying blessings because you are hanging on to a “practical” situation.

You’re Fired.

I posted a photo on my Instagram story with the caption being “I have been completely make up free for a week now because it is a lot cheaper if you would just love yourself”. No, I am not saying that if you wear make up then you don’t love yourself or that you have some major insecurity. I love make up and for everyone who knows me, they know this to be true. Luckily I didn’t get any negative comments towards my post but It really got me thinking about makeup in the work place so I put out a poll on my personal Facebook page asking if you think makeup should be required or optional. To no surprise to me, most people said it should be optional, however I then looked into the professions of the people who voted. Only 8 out of the 46 people over all who voted worked in Corporate America. 5 Out of the 8 that worked in Corporate America voted for makeup to be required. let me break that down: 83.33% of the people who voted for makeup to be required worked in Corporate America, while only 7.5% of people who voted for it to be optional worked in Corporate America. 62.5% of Corporate America workers who responded to my poll voted for makeup to be required. I am sure if I really wanted to do more research I should ask more people than just the few that I am actually friends on Facebook with, but all in all, I found this very intriguing

I did some research on the legalities of requiring make up in the work place. It didn’t take me long to find the law because apparently this is a pretty hot topic. Makeup is lumped into the Dress Code and Grooming Standard clause under the EEOC guidelines.  This clause addresses attire, tattoos, piercings, hygiene, and other various external attributes. It allows employers to set a neat and clean standard of appearance in their place of business. It goes on to state that employers are allowed to require makeup “as long as they bear a reasonable relationship to legitimate business needs and are enforced fairly (between genders and coworkers).” www.twc.state.tx.us

According to Chron.com “Employers can legally require women to wear makeup as part of an established dress code; they can impose such restrictions on female employees while not burdening male employees at a similar level. While some plaintiffs have tried to show that requiring women to wear makeup takes more time and costs more money, thus being a greater burden on women than men, these arguments have not proven successful as of the date of publication.”

Do you know how much I pay for foundation? $52! Yep… Even if I were to use my drug store foundation, it is still $12 just for the foundation. My makeup bag alone has over $250 worth of makeup in it and that’s not all high end items. In fact, most of it is drug store. Poeple.com predicted “that a woman spends $15,000 on beauty products in her lifetime.” Even that number seams very low to me. If you calculate that out from 22 years old to 65 years old (start to retirement) that comes out to only $41.67 per month. maybe if I wore only mascara and lipstick, sure.

Did you know that you can get passed up for a promotion or even demoted if you don’t comply with the Dress Code and Grooming Standard? Passed up, demoted, or fired… over make up?! Under the Correction Action Process this is how your boss can legally fire you for any act that violates dress code including makeup:

  1. oral and written warnings;
  2. probation;
  3. suspension with or without pay;
  4. disciplinary pay cuts;
  5. demotion or reassignment;
  6. final warning; and
  7. discharge.

www.twc.state.tx.us

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13 Reasons Why You Should Start A Blog

Yes, I binge watched the second season of 13 Reasons Why just like I did with the first season and woman… It is one of my all time favorite shows ever. It is probably neck and neck with Stranger Things. I know that there is so much controversy over the show and I gladly tell you that I really don’t care, so thank you for your comments, they are welcome but will not be responded to. Where was I? I digress…


SO NOW LETS GET TO WHY BLOGGING IS THE BEST THING EVER!


  1. Websites are taking over social media. I love being ahead of the curve, trend, quota, whatever you call it! I really think that because creating your own website has become possible to everyone, it is going to be the new wave. I don’t think social medias such as Facebook and Instagram will ever go away but I do think that their purpose will shift. Personal websites will be where you post and share your life stories while Social Medias will be more of a supporting ground. I mean I am not that revolutionary because that is mainly how people use social media now anyways, but it’s something to think about.
  2. You can be undeniably you. When you meet someone are you just like, “Hey here is my life, this is who I am”? No, you are going to take time to open up and get comfortable, and that is only one person. You repeat this cycle over and over again throughout your whole life. With blogging you can share to a mass amount of people who you are, or a big event in your life, good or bad. You get to communicate with thousands of people, not limited to who you are following or who follows you. I have people from India and Brazil that read my blogs, how cool is that? I especially love this because my desire my whole life has always been to inspire and I feel like with blogging there is no cap as to how much of it I can do.
  3. It is basically a super fancy Diary. Don’t put so much pressure on it it’s just a diary/journal entry. When you write in your journal you are writing for you, not for everyone else, right? That is how I see my blog. Sure I hope people are reading and getting pumped with me, but all in all I write for me and I love it!
  4. It helps you break comfort zones. My New Years Resolution for 2018 is to get out of my comfort zone. This helps me so much. I am able to talk about things I have always wanted to, go meet people that have influenced my life, and go do things I would have never of done if it wasn’t for this blog. I mean, I had to dance to no music on the side of Magnolia Street in Fort Worth, TX while fake laughing in order to get some of the photos I have. If that isn’t breaking comfort zones then I don’t know what is.
  5. You build a community. I have met some really cool people in the blogging world. It is like a secret society  (lol jk def not that cool). It is fun to be able to relate to people and get together to work. I have made friendships and memories simply because we have this thing in common, blogging.
  6. It gets you creative. When you experience writers block, you seek out things to inspire you or great your creativity flowing. It is a great tool and way to stay actively creative and engaged.
  7. It is your purpose when you are lacking. I have been there, at a job that I absolutely despised and the only thing that kept me hanging on was of course Jesus and this blog. there will be times in life that you have no idea what you are doing and that is totally okay. Hills and valleys. A blog can be a place to focus your energy in those times when you need it.
  8. You are in control. Yeah I may be a little of a control freak. Only a little though. with a blog, you are completely in control of what you get to do with it. You want to post videos? Go for it! You want to do photography? Snap that shot girl! You decide what you want down to every single detail.
  9. It gives you time to hang out with YOU. I am so big on self care because I struggled with it very badly this past year. My blog is my “me” space. This is a place in which I pour into myself. My stress reliever. It really does work. If your blog should be about you and it is basically your journal then when therapists say that it is healthy to write, they are basically telling you to blog. So take it from a therapist (not me, someone much smarter than me), you should blog.
  10. It is FREE. Blogging can be free, you don’t have to pay for it if you don’t want to. Maybe you are an anonymous writer (very Phantom Of The Opera of you) and you do it here and there, but not enough to want to pay a subscription, then you are in for a treat! Most blog host sights have a free domain name option!
  11. It isn’t crazy difficult. The misconception is that you have to pour hours and hours into it. Sure, I do, but I also am a total writing and reading nut. It can be causal if you want it to be. Host sights such as WordPress and SquareSpace make it easy to set up even if you have absolutely no experience in web design, like me.  Not going to lie, it kind of made me feel like I was 13 again setting up my MySpace page… Oh Myspace….
  12. It can help you in your career. I put my blog on my “exterior experience” section of my resume and little did I know, that is what my company was looking for when they were wanting to hire someone. It could help launch your writing career, it shows employees that you are an evolved-well equipped person, and it sets you apart.
  13. BECAUSE IT IS SO MUCH FUN! I am not being over dramatic or fake when I say that I seriously wish everyone would go out and get a blog because it is so fun. It has brought joy to my life. It truly is a little piece of me. I am a blogger, and I take pride in that.

Moral of this blog is blog because blogging is fun and if you have a blog then you will be blog-crazy like me and wont be able to stop saying blog because it is just so blogging amazing. Blog.