Finding an emotional balance at work can be really hard. I have been on both ends of the spectrum (super emotional and extremely unattached). Of course we know that work shouldn’t be a place for “boo hoo” crying or letting our frustrations get the best of us, but we are human and many of us spend more time at work than we do at home. So, how do we assess our emotions and handle them in a healthy way so that we can stay professional and avoid a total break down?
1. Prepare: Start every morning with meditation. Meditation is one of the best self-care things you can do for yourself. Realigning your emotions, even facing them, before the day starts is healthy. Allow yourself to understand what emotions you are feeling and why. It will help you avoid exploding on someone who isn’t the reason that you are stressed.
2. Deal: It is okay to give yourself a moment at work to just be in your feels. We often suppress our emotions at work but the moment we get home, we let it all out and spend the rest of our night recovering from something that has been festering in our mind for the past eight hours. We make it into this big thing. Take a moment of silence and settle the issue within yourself. It helps move the day along and helps you get past it before you allow it to cause more damage than intended.
3. Recover: Learn to be okay with the day. So, you have meditated and given yourself quite a few moments at work to try to get a hold of yourself but you still end the day with the weight of the world on your shoulders. Congratulations!!! You made it through the day! Know that you are okay. Know that although the stress and pressure and maybe even the drama is so not fun, you can have peace with the fact that it is over and you made it through. (And if that doesn’t help… Well, you always have Wine.)
I have balled my eyes out. Like blubbering, gasping for air, ugly faced balled at my desk. I was struggling at my place of business and I felt like I always had to be strong. I was uncontrollably stressed out. I had just been cussed out by my oversight about my trainee’s performance, I forgot a few things on my checklist, and to top it all off, a coworker’s $800 European train tickets were lost and I was the last one seen on video holding them. I could have sworn I set them on her desk but my days were so blurred from the stress and busyness that I honestly couldn’t remember. I didn’t leave my office for an hour just letting everything out. I felt so out of control. I was mad at myself for not doing my job better and I was mad that I didn’t know how to fix it. This was for sure the lowest point in my career.
I really let my emotions get the best of me because I wasn’t dealing with them as they came, instead I stuffed and stuffed until the lid came bursting off and everyone saw my break down.
Working on your emotions at work is very important. Don’t allow yourself to get swept away with them or not feel them because they are a part of who you are as a person. I am still working on mine and balancing them. It is a never ending process. That is why meditating in the morning, dealing with them as they come, and letting them go every day is so important.