Yesterday was my 23rd birthday and today is my blog’s 3rd birthday! What a wild and crazy ride this has been. Three years ago I launched this website that I really had no idea what… More
1. The interviewer doesn’t let you talk but schedules you for a second interview.
I really love marketing but since I don’t have any marketing experience besides internet marketing for my blog I was looking for an entry level position. I interviewed at so many “marketing firms” that really turned out to be more like sales and since I definitely did not want to work nights and weekends this was really not my cup of tea. I was had one interview with a marketing company and the interviewer talked the whole time, was basically trying to sell me on the company and hook me in to believing that I will be making a lot of money. It sounded great and all but not once did he ask about me. It was all about him and “how much money he makes”. I don’t care that you make more than six figures, if it costs me my soul there is no way I am signing up for that. If the person interviewing you has to convince you that it’s a great job and chats your ear off while you sit there and then signs you up for a second interview that should be a huge red flag. Don’t you want your employer to want to hire you because they like you? This type of interviewer doesn’t care about you, they are trying to get you because they need the employee numbers up, which leads me into my next type of interviewer.
2. The interviewer talks to every prospective employee and employs them all.
I went into one interview and by the time I had left there were 10 other interviewees that had come in for the same position. Not only did we all get to interview, but we were all offered jobs and that was just in one hour. They had interviews scheduled all day. This means the company has a very high turn over rate which screams UNHEALTHY WORK ENVIRONMENT. I am sure that there are some people who come out of that job on top but do you really want to work in an unstable company? Not me!
3. The interviewer who doesn’t directly answer your questions.
This interviewer is the worst! After a slew of awful interviews I had been through, I just wanted to work with someone who I felt was honest. This interviewer was asking me if I had anymore questions and every question I asked, he would completely redirect. I just wanted yes or no but he couldn’t deliver that to me. This generally means that there is something they are hiding from you because they know you would not take the job so they are going to wait until you sign on the dotted line before hitting you with the big awful secret. You have to be careful of shady people, because generally shady people work for shady companies.
4. Acts like you’re interviewing for a ceo position when it’s an entry level position.
This was probably the interview that had me laughing as I walked out. I am pretty confident in my abilities. I am a hard worker and if I don’t know how to do something I will teach myself. I went into this one interview with an interviewer for an entry level position and she was asking me things that made me feel like my job was the guy that was in charge of pushing the button for the release of nuclear war fare. This type of company can put a lot of pressure on you and make you feel as though you are never good enough or you don’t work enough making you have to completely give up your personal life and be married to your job. I have a husband thank you very much, I’m not going to leave him for my career.
When you are interviewing be careful of these types of companies. Remember, in most cases you spend more time at your job than you do at home so make sure the company you work for lines up with your values, culture, and schedule.
The question, “How do you stay focused and keep making content?” came from my Instagram follower @ali0n who is an incredible artist and lover of her totally rad purple hair (link for her profile below). This is such a HOT topic because writers block is real! Right now I have 12 drafts just sitting there waiting to be finished, but I lost interest half way through writing them and just stopped. How do you start having consistent and fluid content when there is a lack of inspiration? This is a good and really hard topic to touch on because it all depends on what type of blogger you are, but since I am a lifestyle blogger I will give you my tips and tricks!
To be able to continuously have content, there are three things you need to know before you put pen to paper
What Is The Purpose For Your Blog?
So, I am hoping that if you are starting a blog you already know which category you find yourself under. Are you life style, fashion, design, art, short story, adventure, travel, ect. ect.? The most important piece of your blog, however, is knowing why you are doing it.
My blog falls under the “life style” category. I originally chose Life Style because it has no limitations as to what topics I can talk about. However, when I first started my blog I didn’t know why I wanted to, I just wanted to do something. This made it hard to write when there was every topic at my disposal and no clear vision. Before creating a blog or publishing a post I needed to think one step further. I am not just a life style blogger. I am a life style blogger that caters to young women in the corporate/working world, encouraging them in their everyday routine and business ventures.
Suddenly all my content had purpose, it’s purpose drove my posts, and my posts had a theme. I don’t know about you but I absolutely love the show, Project Runway. When they get down to the finale, the contestants have to design and create an entire line of 8-10 pieces, the biggest factor of the winning designer’s line is not just the design, but cohesion. You could have incredible posts but if you are all over the map with unrelated topics, I promise, it won’t be as successful as you would have hoped.
The thought is: Knowing why you want to blog will create cohesion and steer your mind to the right topics that will keep you focused and helping avoid writers block.
Who Do You Want Your Reader To Be?
If you noticed I didn’t ask, “Who is your reader”. This is because you should never let others dictate what you write, instead you should make what you write dictate who reads your blog. It is important to know who you want to write to. Get into the nitty gridy with this. Don’t just say you want to write to women from 18-30 who like fashion. put yourself in your readers shoes.
What is your readers age, gender, style, what do they do for fun, what is it specifically that you write about that they can relate with? Are you an introvert, extrovert, mega punk rock lover, and how are you going to incorporate that to gain a specific type of reader? All of these things will drive unique and creative topics that will help you stay on track and motivated. Know who you want your reader to be.
The thought is: Knowing who you want your reader to be will help you because instead of posting for the whole world, you are basically writing a letter to a fellow friend.
Content Inspire Your Topic or Topic Inspire Your Content?
since I have my a clear vision for my blog and I know who I want my readers to be these are the two ways I begin a blog. Most of the time believe it or not my content inspires what I write about. What does that mean for me? This means I go out and do a photo shoot with 5 different outfit changes, and different locations. I then come back and hit the drawing board. What is it about these photos that I am trying to say? Then I write an entire blog post off of how I interpret a picture. the other way is to already have written topics down and you choose a topic and then you go out and have a photo shoot for that specific topic. Which I actually find to be harder, but sometimes my topic does inspire my content.
The thought is: Change things up if what you’re doing isn’t working. Find people who inspire you or do things opposite of what you normally do. There is no specific “right” way to get inspired.
my 3 writing tricks
After all of that there are a few things mechanically that actually help me as I am writing so that I don’t stop half way through because I am bored or have completely lost what I was going to say in the first place:
- I always create an outline.
- I write my punch lines for every paragraph first.
- I never stop educating myself or reading other blogs for inspiration.
I hope this has helped anyone with providing some practical tools and ways that I have content and HAPPY BLOGGING YALL!
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Photography by Naomi Ledford:
As someone who enjoys working and being busy, this was hard for me to grasp. When I am in something I am full force, pedal to the metal, submerged. This can be good in moments when I need to be attentive or exude a lot of energy, but also a down fall.
When you are growing up you have shift work jobs where you work 3 times a week, four hours at a time. When you get into corporate America, you work at least 40 hours a week, which breaks down to 8 hours a day of work and one hour a day for lunch. Although you technically work 40 hours you are away from home for at least 45 hours, not including your drive. On a “normal” week I leave my place at 6 am and get home around 5:15 pm. I generally pump myself up for work on my way there and decompress on my way home which means I am spending a little over 11 hours in work mode. IT IS HARD TO TURN OFF. I tend to find myself having a hard time clocking out mentally at 4 pm along with my body.
For the first couple months of my job in corporate, I dwelt on my work constantly. I couldn’t take my mind off of it. I was excited and ambitious but it led me down a rough road. I started getting irritable, I was waking up in the middle of the night with items I needed to add to my checklist, and I was panicking over everything I did.
I did hit my breaking point. I was exhausted, my co-worker had quit, we were hiring someone new, I never rested, I was working 10.5 hour days (not including the hour commute) and I couldn’t take my mind off work. My mental health had taken a serious hit. One day, I was sitting at work and felt my toes and hands starting to hurt. I looked down and there were red spots all over my feet! I went to the doctor, they took my blood pressure (which was through the roof), and found out that because of all the stress I was putting on myself, my immune system was low and I got hand, foot, and mouth disease.
This forced me to rest. I was out of work for four days and spent all day, every day, lying down. Awful, but glorious because I got so much rest! A mental vacation was what I needed. From that breaking point I have trained my brain to turn off of work mode. Mental breaks are not easy and it took practice believe it or not, but sometimes you have to choose not to think about something. here is how I did it:
- I started by actively doing something after work that I enjoyed, like blogging! TV and social media doesn’t do it for me, I don’t need something mindless, I need something that I can focus on that brings me joy and sweeps me away.
- I stopped talking about work on my free time. I still do this if something is bothering me but I try to make a conscious effort not to talk about it to fill space.
- I started planning events to look forward to so when I was stressed I could remember what I had planned that was going to be fun and NOT WORK!
- I stopped giving all of myself to everyone. When I did this I let in room to take care of myself, my husband, and my job. It became a lot easier to balance.
It gets better, but it does take time and effort.
Photography by Naomi Ledford: